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Parenting the System

Why Your Teenager Struggles at School, and What You Can Actually Do About It

School sees a problem child. You see your teenager. This book closes the gap.

★★★★★5 · 2 reader reviews on Amazon

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What this book does

Your teenager is fine at home. Or at least, manageable. But school keeps calling. The detentions pile up. The reports say 'disruptive', 'disengaged', 'defiant'. You know that's not the whole picture. But you don't know how to bridge the gap between what you see and what school sees.

Parenting the System gives you the language, the frameworks, and the strategies to advocate effectively for your teenager without becoming adversarial. It shows you how to decode school behaviour reports, understand what's driving the disconnect, and work with the system rather than against it.

Who it's for

For parents who are tired of being called in but never listened to.

What it helps with

  • Decode school behaviour reports and understand what they really mean
  • Understand why teenagers behave differently at home vs. school
  • Learn to advocate effectively without becoming adversarial
  • Practical scripts for meetings with teachers and SENCOs
  • Strategies for working with the system to get your teenager the support they need

The parent who understands the system is not more patient with it. They are more strategic inside it.

Parenting the System

Notes from readers.

Left between the pages

Wow, I can totally relate to this book. It was like the author was talking to me about my boy. I am glad to have this and know I'm not alone.
Parent, Amazon reviewer

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